I’m an Older, Married, Adoptive Mother with a Domestic Open Adoption of a Single Child MommyBlogger!
And I think I’m all alone in the blogosphere – perhaps the world!
I should be writing my About Page, but instead I’ve spent almost two hours surfing the web, looking for companions in my unique parenting journey. I can’t find anyone who is married, with a single adopted child, adopted when Mom was over 40, in an open domestic adoption.
Antique Mommy and The Other Laura and are older Moms who blog, and well worth reading, but where-oh-where is my blogging Soul Sister??
I’m feeling a little lonely out here . . . but talk about a “niche” blog!
September 7th, 2008 at 8:29 pm
Ha. At least you know who you are.
Good luck with finding your soul sister!
September 8th, 2008 at 9:49 am
Hi, thanks for your comments on my blog – I guess I was one of the sites you hit in your search for a soul sister! I’m in the “older” category – just turned 41 and in the process of adopting from Ethiopia – but don’t fit the other categories. But I hope you found something to relate to in my blog anyway. I like yours and will be back!
September 8th, 2008 at 12:27 pm
Don’t feel down if you don’t find anyone who is your twin out there. There’s no one to match me either.
But I’ve found that I get a lot out of many different sites as long as I’m looking at the areas of commonality rather than the converse. It would be nice to feel that someone really “got” my situation and the realities of it but, for now, I get a bit here and a bit there and I’ve found a lot of great bloggers as a result.
September 9th, 2008 at 1:19 am
This is my first visit here. I must say that your situation sure sounds unique. I read many blogs but none that has a profile like yours. Good luck with finding your soul sister!
I’ve just subscribed to your posts! Hoping to read life from your perspective!
Evelyn
September 9th, 2008 at 1:53 am
Well, I’m none of the above (33, have three children that I’ve birthed myself) except a blogger, of course! But, as Shevy says, it’s good to look for areas of commonality. And thanks for the links, I now have two new blogs to read! (Actually I don’t know if I should thank you or not.. my time is already limited enough.
September 9th, 2008 at 5:37 am
Don’t give up, VM. The older moms must be out there somewhere, keep searching!
And thanks for sending some folks my way…
September 9th, 2008 at 8:51 am
@Vered: yes, it’s good to know who you are!
@Liz: I look forward to hearing about your adoption and “meeting” your child! The wait is so hard . . .
@Shevy: I think we are alike in that we’re unique. So glad we connected!
@Evelyn: Hi! I’ve seen your name many times around the blogosphere. Welcome.
@@Kelly: sorry about the two new blogs . . . and you’re most welcome for the links!
@Laura: Just in the last couple of days I’ve met so many interesting bloggers, even if our stories are a bit different; it’s been fun and I’m glad I sent you some readers.
September 9th, 2008 at 9:42 am
It was nice to meet you on BlogHer – thanks so much for the visit!
Like I said before, we’re probably not soul sisters – but close enough…
*hugs* Good luck with it all! I’ll keep reading.
September 9th, 2008 at 10:48 pm
My Mom nearly fit the bill — age 44 when she adopted me, her only daughter and she was married to my Dad 25 years by then . . . but open adoption wasn’t “invented” yet.
Now she’s 99 with Alzheimer’s disease, but when appropriate, I’ll be happy to share things she told me over the years.
Close, but no cigar!
September 18th, 2008 at 2:48 pm
I stumbled upon your blog…I’m not sure how.
But I noticed you’ve made reference to infertility…would you be interested in joining the infertility community online? I imagine you won’t have any trouble finding someone similar to you (maybe not exactly like you though 
if you join us. Melissa keeps an organized blogroll of anyone who falls in the adoption/loss/infertility categories at her blog (http://stirrup-queens.blogspot.com/2006/06/whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you.html)
You can be added to her blogroll by emailing her (her email is on her blog). Hope this helps.
September 19th, 2008 at 9:52 am
@spyderkl: nice to meet you too and thanks for checking out vintage moommy!
@Linda: Wow – we were only married for nine years when we adopted our daughter; that must have been quite a change for your parents! I would love to hear your mom’s perspective anytime you feel like sharing.
SAHW: Hello! I didn’t struggle with infertility for long; we decided fairly early on to invest our money and energy into adoption, partly because of my age, and partly b/c my husband is adopted. I saw your happy news on your blog last night – best wishes to you!!
September 20th, 2008 at 1:48 am
Hi Vintage Mom,
Welcome to the blogosphere!
In a funny way, I feel your loneliness. I am a Japanese-American-rock-musician-turned-self-improvement-blogger. I have recently found an Australian musician/SI blogger, but that was the closest so far. I am an ordinary dad, however, of my two kids.
You and I simply have to learn to celebrate our uniqueness.
You are having a quite a launch here. When I started, I didn’t see comments for months! You are clearly doing something right — hitting a chord. No, there’s no need to feel lonely. Uniqueness is nothing but an asset, when you know you’re hitting a chord.
ari
September 20th, 2008 at 9:27 am
Hi Ari,
Thanks for visiting and commenting!
I sort of “cheated” on the launch, because I have another blog and those kind readers have followed me here. You can take a look at http://onebagnation.wordpress.com. It’s not exactly about self-improvement but I hope things will improve!
January 7th, 2009 at 12:52 pm
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